Work that Net(work)

The richest people in the world look for and build networks. Everyone else looks for work.

Robert Kiyosaki

As academics, conferences are a necessary, useful, and exciting part of the parcel. They are an opportunity to learn about research going on in your field, a chance to show off your own research, and probably do all of this in a very nice location (I imagine this is true for non-academic conferences also).

So whilst at a conference, it is important to get the most out of it. Conferences can be very tiring; 9am-7pm days are not atypical, 5 days a week, maybe a ‘pre-conference ice-breaker day’, fun runs, evening events, dinners, ceilidhs…

This leads me to a very real reason for conferences: networking. Conferences are a chance to network – a word that may have certain connotations, commonly that networking is all about using someone for something they have that you want.

But networking doesn’t have to be like that. Instead of thinking about what someone wants from you, maybe think about what you have to offer, and they way in which you view networking may change. Often you have a lot more than you may give yourself credit for. You may have some interesting samples, some technical expertise, a different way of looking at things…

A benefit of looking at networking in terms of what you have to offer someone, is that if they don’t want what you have to offer at this moment in time, they are not rejecting you. They are just declining to accept what you have offered.

Imagine Professor Fab. Professor Fab has something you want (equipment, data, knowledge, money, wine…). How easy is it to go up to Professor Fab and ask for some of that? Not very. It can also come off a bit desperate, and you can be rejected. No one wants to be rejected (I don’t think so anyway?).

So imagine situation 2. You are you (all easy to imagine so far), and there is Professor Babe. Now if you offer Professor Babe something (equipment, data, knowledge, money, wine…) its a bit easier, and if they decline, they are only saying no to the thing that you have offered at this moment in time. They are not saying no to you full stop, and that is much easier.

OK cool, so we have a new way to think about networking, by going in to it from the point of what we have to offer rather than what we want from someone, but what about the first bit – the bit where you have to talk to someone you don’t know?

If its Professor Excellent-in-my-Field you want to talk to, then an email before the conference asking to meet for a coffee and a 5 minute chat is not a bad way to go. One email, don’t be creepy. They might say yes, in which case yay! If they say no, or don’t reply to your email, then you are no worse off than if you didn’t ask.

For striking up any conversations there are 3 types of people that you can approach for a conversation: individuals, ‘open’ pairs, and ‘open’ groups of 3. How can you approach them? Small talk is great (though it can be awkward, see previous post!). Talk about the coffee, the sandwiches, the venue, and if you’re British you will probably talk about the weather. Networking, at conferences or elsewhere, can be thought of like a first date without the awkward ‘oh my god how do we say hi/bye? a handshake? a hug? a kiss on the cheek?!’. Start with safe topics and build up from there. You probably wouldn’t ask you first date whether they want to marry you or not and whether you want your family home in the countryside or the city. In the same way, when you’re networking, don’t ask them right away about a potential collaboration. Work up a rapport first, probably over several small interactions, possibly a conference dinner, potentially some wine. Much in the same way as dating, you will work out whether the bond built is worth pursuing. Do you trust this person? Would you like to work with them? You may not have anything to offer each other right now, but maybe in a few months time maybe you will, and building up a relationship first is key to successful networking.

So you’ve managed to build a relationship at a conference, congratulations! Now comes a very important step: follow up. Send an email, say how nice it was to meet them, and attach any papers or links that you promised them. Maybe even ask how that upcoming family holiday went. Maintain the relationship that you have built, and work that network.


Grad School Day 1: Awkward Small Talk

Day 1 started at a respectable hour of 10.30, with the first half an hour for registration. Registration means 2 things for me 1) filling in forms and signing my name, explaining that yes, I am technically Elizabeth, but please call me Lil, and 2) awkward small talk.


Well, I was pleasantly surprised when I found out my name badge said Lil (hurrah!), and less pleasantly surprised when I realised I was in a room of 60 people I didn’t know, trying to hold my overflowing handbag, take off my coat because I was so hot from the walk, and drink a cup of coffee, all whilst scanning the room looking for an ‘in’ to start a conversation with someone so I didn’t have to stand awkwardly by myself.


I see a girl with a name badge on who is in the same tutor group as me. I use that as my in. To my surprise she is even more shy than I am. Retrospectively, why should I have been surprised? She was also standing on her own, sipping her coffee. We exchanged pleasantries, what’s your name, what do you study, where do you live…but the conversation stalled, and I felt self-conscious.


I’m awful at conversation


A guy approaches, and restarts a similar conversation, and she slips out. I manage to get in some ‘leading’ questions, my way of making small talk more bearable for myself. Leading questions are anything that can’t have a one-word answer. Why did you choose to study what you do? What led you to a PhD in Cambridge? What did you do over the weekend? I have got so good at these leading questions, because it means I don’t have to talk about myself, a thing many of us are not so great at. The other person may talk a lot more than I do, granted, but still there are no awkward silences. As I have reached the ripe old age of 23 (so ripe, so old, nothing more to be learnt), however, I have become so used to awkward silences that I care less now with every awkward chat. Yes, at times I still have waves of crippling self-consciousness, but I am slowly learning that silence is ok, and you will not always be able to have an amazing chat with everyone. In fact, there are many instances when silence is better than OK, but I will save that for another post.


11.01 rolls around, and we are called into the main auditorium. I survived. I walk into the auditorium and sit with my new friend. Small talk is over, for now.

Grad School: Initial Scepticism

I’m a graduate student, studying for my PhD in Earth Sciences, and a few weeks ago I enrolled for ‘Grad School’, as suggested by my supervisor, put it in my diary, and forgot all about it. A few weeks later, I received the timing and location and a pre-course booklet, complete with a (very vague) timetable, and a pre-course questionnaire.

I was sceptical. What was ‘Grad School’ going to teach me? Hopefully how to finish my PhD without having a(nother) mental breakdown. Probably some jargon about the corporate world and how to enter it after I finished, or how to stay in academia if thats what I chose instead. I asked a friend who had been before, how was it? What should I expected?

“Oh, it was good. You should go.”


An email came through addressed to me and 6 others, from Jen Allanson, our Grad School ‘tutor’

Good morning,

I just wanted to take a moment to say hello! and to introduce myself. I’m Jen and I’m going to be your group tutor at GRADSchool next week.

I’m really looking forward to meeting and working with you.

See you Monday.

Have a great weekend

Best wishes


Short. Concise. How I like most things. How I am, standing 5ft 3 tall and only chipping into conversation when I feel I have something to add.

The pre-course booklet asked us to agree to 3 things:

  • to come with an open mind
  • to be prepared to be involved throughout the course
  • to respect each others differences

So Monday morning, I walked the 30 minutes to Fitzwilliam College, Cambridge, where our grad school was to be held, with a (fairly) open mind, prepared to feel awkward in all inevitable small talk that I was about to be involved in, and ready to respect the fact that people are different and I do not have to like everyone and not everyone (/anyone depending on how anxious I am feeling on a particular day and what cruel tricks my mind is playing on me) will like me either.

So what is ‘Grad School’? And what did I learn?


Amazing. It was amazing.


And I learn a lot.


A fuckton.